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Off-white Vest: Forever 21
Teal Tribal Maxi Dress: Forever 21 Plus
Yellow Wedges: Cotton On
Yellow Statement Necklace and Belt: Bazaar
When you have a sister with a pretty face, cute chinky eyes, who fits the "regular" mold of being 5'3" and a size 2/4, some people tend to think you're invisible. You go to parties and all you hear are adoring comments on how your mom is so lucky to have such a beautiful daughter, (singular, not plural) who looks just like her.But when you do get noticed, it's by people who decide that your plump body and taller-than-most height is their business. You get untethered opinions on how pretty could have been, if only you'd shed some pounds; how you have the height of a model, but with your width, you're bigger than a man; how you should lose weight first before a boy finds you the least bit interesting; how you shouldn't be seated at the end to avoid a flat tire; or how you shouldn't be allowed near the kitchen lest you eat all the food. Ha. ha.. ha...Everybody's laughing except you.When you are pummeled by these ideas from an aunt, an uncle, heartless classmates, your mom's friend, your tutor, a talkative saleslady or a random stranger, your ego doesn't just get bruised, it gets beaten down. It will be a bloodied mess even you won't want to touch. A kid in the stages of developing a sense of identity can't handle all your stereotypical "advice" or "good-nature jokes" on what she should look like. It's never funny for the person at the receiving end. She will learn to loathe attention, crawl into a defensive shell and miss out on a lot of experiences in life because she expects everyone to look at her and only see her fat.So, DON'T. Don't make a joke out of a person. If you can't find anything good (half-meant jokes are hurtful) to say, then just keep your opinions to yourself.Because that kid will one day grow up. And she will remember.Hugs,The Belated Bloomer